Have you ever forgotten where you put your car keys, or perhaps you drove to the grocery store to buy some particular item, but when you got there you forgot what that item was? Could you be on the verge of developing Alzheimer’s disease? I invited the Alzheimer’s Society to my television program, Health in America, to talk about this particular issue.
They said we all have short lapses of memory. But, if you see a pencil and you forgot what the name of that object is or if you forget what a washing machine is, after using it for the past 40 years, then you might have a problem. We are a society of people who like to have all our ducks in a row. However, in this case, one day we wake up to find that three ducks decided to swim in the wrong direction!
The Alzheimer’s patient may feel angered, confused, or lost. A large percentage of patients can’t sleep and end up pacing the floor day and night. They might walk out of the house and get lost, not knowing the way back home. The last thing they need at this point is more medications that might confuse their minds even more.
Alzheimer’s patients require care 24 hours a day, seven days a week, for a long time. Perhaps 10 or even 20 years. In the meantime, the caregiver doesn’t get a break, vacation time, or holidays. This can wear down the caregiver beyond your wildest imagination. They may feel isolated, angry, sleep deprived, constantly on the verge of tears, or feel as if they are at the end of their rope!!!
Caregivers may need to learn how to do the laundry, cook, pay bills, and even take out the garbage. Other new duties may include bathing, feeding, and changing diapers of the Alzheimer’s patient. Some caregivers may have a fear for their own well-being, as some Alzheimer’s patients may become violent! Alzheimer’s patients sometimes have a fear of the bathroom. They may resist the caregiver trying to bathe them, which could lead to violence.
Most caregivers are women, the wife or daughter of the patient. Son’s back off from being caregivers because of the dignity issue. They cannot bring themselves to perhaps having to bathe their mother or father or put them to bed or change their diapers! The stresses can build to a point where it’s not uncommon for the caregiver to die from a heart attack or stroke, long before their patient dies.
And if they even think of putting their loved one in a care facility, the guilt would eat them alive. There is something called the caregiver’s Bill of Rights that says “I have the right to get help if I need to,” “I have the right to have sad feelings and get angry,” “I have the right to have a break and get rest.”
Remember what ever the Alzheimer’s patient thinks, is all right. If they think they’re in Arizona when they’re in California, don’t try to correct them, just go along with it! If they want to wear a jogging suit with Velcro tennis shoes, that’s okay. Try to be “WHERE THEY ARE,” wherever THAT is! If you try to argue with them or try to change their mind, it will only make matters worse. If you feel like you can’t go on caring for your loved one any longer there is help out there for you. You can call the Alzheimer’s aid society for all kinds of help and great information. (916) 483-2002 or 1-800-540-3340
Your loved one may not even have Alzheimer’s disease. They may only have a vitamin B-12 deficiency. You can talk that over with their doctor. A simple blood test will tell the story. If they have a B-12 deficiency their mind can become very forgetful! Doctors sometimes correct this problem by using vitamin B-12 shots. If your loved one is taking too many prescription medications, which might cloud a persons mind, the doctor may want to adjust their dose or even eliminate some of the medications.
Let’s see now, where did I put my glasses???